Growth is subjective. What one person needs to obtain some level of growth, another may need an opposite experience. It is not up to us, as individuals to decide what people need God/Universe/Karma to show them, and the way in which He/She/It feels as if they are equipped to see. We have no idea what is truly beneficial or detrimental to them. If you feel as if a person needs help or guidance, then try to lend a genuine helping hand. But to condemn or elevate a person, within your mind or heart, due to what they have or have not or due to what they are or are not doing, is a judgment that you have no right to place. Yes, you can feel that something is right or wrong, but you should understand that your moral compass truly only applies to you and your personal experiences and culture and that it is not a fact; Even what you think you believe may change many times within your own growth.
None of us are equipped to be judges nor jurors when none of us is without fault. It is much easier in life to just accept people as they are and love them regardless. If it means loving them from a distance, then so be it, because I am not saying that you have to involve yourself with people, places, or things that you are not comfortable with. But I am saying that there is someone, somewhere, right now, looking at you with their nose turned up at who you are and the choices that you’ve made that you felt were beneficial at that time in your life.
We are all just on a journey and although the paths may not all be the same, I can only hope that the Truth, and not only our personal and sometimes egotistical truth, will persevere.